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Most have become aware of the current controversy surrounding remarks made by Pope Benedict XVI when he quoted a Medieval text that described the teachings of the Prophet Muhammad as "evil and inhuman." While some have noticed how this occurrence reveals, in comparison to Pope John Paul II, a weaker gift for diplomacy and might even suggest a further splintering within the Roman bureaucracy, I am more interested in the meaning of an apology.
Pope Benedict has been quoted as being sorry for "the reaction" his words have caused within the Muslim world. I truly wonder if this kind of apology passes the muster of an appropriate form of authentic repentance. Even while he says that he does not personally agree with the text he quoted (which begs the question; "why then did he use it?") and how he hopes this will help create a healthier dialogue between world religions, his apology is found lacking.
For example, how would we feel if every time someone apologized to us, they said, "I'm sorry for the way YOU have reacted," or better yet, what if we said to God, "I'm regret God how YOU have reacted to my behavior." Both seem to reveal a defiance that counters the very sentiment that warrants our saying sorry in the first place. This appeal is a sort of "have your cake and eat it too;" being able to say we are sorry without prompting any admission of wrong doing or offering any promise to insure a similar offense will not occur again.
That's why this stunted form of an apology hardly leads to reconciliation or the ways that work toward peace. In contrast, Jesus in the Sermon on the Mount often encourages his followers to go the "extra mile," to offer more than is required, to take the next step toward being peacemakers.
I fear we have lost the power of this kind of redeeming discourse in our civic conversations. We are so concerned with being right that we have forgotten how to be humble. It would seem that Christians would be those who might embody a better way; teaching through behavior and by the careful use of words how to keep the focus of religion on offering healing to a troubled world. But who I am to suggest to the pontiff what he should do? Maybe I should just say, "I am sorry for how you feel the world has misunderstood you?"

